Fear of the Wrong Diaper

Still not having any clear picture of what cloth diapering would be like for me, I decided to start a registry. I thought it would be best to register for a wide variety of diapers so that I could experiment and see what I liked best. The act of registering helped me process what I had learned about cloth so far and start to make sense of terms like: AIO, AI2 and fitteds… I didn’t actually receive many cloth diapers though- which I get. I mean, two years ago, I probably would have considered cloth diapering crazy too.

 Left to right: Bumkins Fitted, Flip AI2, Simplex AIO, FuzziBunz Pocket
Left to right: Bumkins Fitted, Flip AI2, Simplex AIO, FuzziBunz Pocket

I did buy myself a couple of newborn diapers at a consignment sale. And just having a handful of cloth diapers at home made me feel like this could work. I didn’t plan on doing much with cloth for the first few months. I learned in that workshop that the OS (one size) diapers wouldn’t fit very well in the beginning. So, I figured when the baby was around 3-4 months, I’d give it a shot. In the meantime, I would follow the FB group Fluff Love & CD Science closely, so that I could learn from others’ questions and comments.

Why on Earth???

I was pregnant and reading everything I could get my hands on. That kind of reading you do when you’re searching for something, but don’t know what. Blogs, articles, advocates of this, naysayers of that. During this time of intense research about nothing in particular, but everything ‘baby,’ I somehow came across an interview with Lauren Singer of Trash is for Tossers in NY News & Politics that left me feeling inspired and uneasy all at once.

Lauren Singer has made it her mission to create no waste. All of her trash from two years fit inside a Mason jar. Here at my house, we had just paid for another 10 yard dumpster to take away the ‘trash’ from remodeling. Lauren writes on her blog, about a professor encouraging her to live her values, which tugged right at the guilt I was beginning to have about always practicing what I preach and leading by example… to this baby growing in my belly. I knew the Mason jar was out of reach… but what wasn’t?

Some of the Google searches that followed, pointed me toward cloth diapering. I read that every baby who wears disposable diapers produces 2000lbs. of garbage in two years.

I didn’t know anyone who had cloth diapered their kids except my nana, who did it in the 50s, and thought my doing it in 2015 was nuts. I suddenly felt very strongly that for me- disposables shouldn’t be the default choice in diapering. I wouldn’t beat myself up over it if I needed to use them, but I should at least have a reason to use them. I needed to talk to someone who wouldn’t just dismiss my thinking as crazy- someone who had done it herself.. recently.

Enter Bellani Maternity in Warwick, RI, a cute maternity shop selling a little bit of everything and offering all kinds of classes and workshops. I found a cloth diapering workshop on their website and signed up. Finally, I would be able to ask questions to someone who actually knew the answers, or at the very least- had actual experience with cloth diapers. 

The best part of the workshop was that everyone there was at least considering cloth diapering. I took copious notes (that are still on my iPhone). The woman who facilitated the class had used cloth on both of her two children and was preparing to do it all over again with her third. This was doable. I left that workshop armed with notes, a place to return with questions and the name of a Facebook group that would also be a great resource.